If purchase price is not an issue, another option would be the CVO Softail. Low seat height, looks amazing with or without bags and shield, and comes factory loaded with everything to include sound and GPS.
I recently purchased a softail classic, and I must say I, too, posted a similiar question as you on this very site. The one thing that tipped the scales for me was actually riding each bike (read DEMO). I, like you, am vertically challanged (5' 8") and the Heritage just fit me better. I was also really attracted to the styling of the heritage.
There is something emotional/behavioral that happens when you buy a Harley Davidson motorcycle...you will know when you have found 'your' bike, and when you do, she will become part of your family, part of your soul. As in marriage, this is an important decision to make. Take your time and follow your heart. Good luck!