Firstly, Gary I am very sorry for the loss of your brother.
I have experienced the speed wobble, and been reading and thinking about this (never a good thing
. On my bike there are two types of handling 'anomalies', and I suspect that the two are mixed up:
One is a slow/soft swinging type of movement occurring in high-speed corners. It is predictable, repeatable, and really not that much of a problem once I got used to it - a 'feature'.
The other has only occurred a couple of times, but is scary. It is a violent higher frequency wobble that leaves me totally out of control. Not sure when it happens, but it seems to be connected with uneven surfaces and acceleration in turns. What I think kept me from crashing, was easing off the throttle while loosening my grip. Once on a jap bike I managed to accelerate through the wobble - on my tourer I did not dare as I was afraid it would take too long, crashing before getting through it.
My theory is that the first one is a rear wheel steering issue that can be cured by stiffening up the rear swingarm pivot to frame connection by whatever means. The other one, is a 'classic' wobble that I belive is something totally different.
Question: The FXR is famed for its great handling compared to other Harleys. Looking through a 1987-1990 parts book, it is clear that the FXR and FLH are basically identical bikes when it comes to the frames and engine/trans/rear swingarm system. Why are we not hearing complaints about FXR handling?
Could it be that as it is a lighter bike the rear steering never happens? While the 'real' wobble is connected to the front geometry being totally different on the two models, coupled with a weight distribution difference in the two.
The FXR has the traditional negative offset fork legs (fork legs in front of the neck) and more rake. The FLH has positive offset, but a steeper rake. This gives a large trail, but combined with a 'light' front-end at speeds it could be causing wobbling.
Not sure if others agree, but I often get a very 'light' feeling from the front that seems more pronounced when my windshield is on...
There is probably not an easy cure for this, but I believe in well maintained suspension, tyre pressures, and possibly a touch tighter neck bearing than the manual calls for (like I saw someone else suggest - I will try next time my nacelle is off).