Since you opened this door, I hope you won't mind some advice that comes straight from the heart.
DO NOT LET ANY MORE TIME GO BY.
Forget about how you got here, who was right, who was wrong, who made the separation happen, who is keeping it from ending.....
TAKE CONTROL.
Pick up that phone, or if possible go knock on that door, and of those just aren't options then pick up a pen and a piece of paper, and say the following:
"SON, I LOVE YOU."
(You HAVE to lead off with that.)
"I'm sorry that I let this happen."
(Even if YOU didn't.)
"I ask for your forgiveness."
(Even if you didn't do anything wrong.)
"Let me fix this. You don't have to do ANYTHING, Just give me a chance to make this right."
(Then, DO IT.)
I hope this advice doesn't offend you....if it sounds like I might have been where you are, well.......read what you want between these lines, but more importantly, think hard about my suggestion on where to start the healing.
Since you opened this door, I hope you won't mind some advice that comes straight from the heart.
DO NOT LET ANY MORE TIME GO BY.
Forget about how you got here, who was right, who was wrong, who made the separation happen, who is keeping it from ending.....
TAKE CONTROL.
Pick up that phone, or if possible go knock on that door, and of those just aren't options then pick up a pen and a piece of paper, and say the following:
"SON, I LOVE YOU."
(You HAVE to lead off with that.)
"I'm sorry that I let this happen."
(Even if YOU didn't.)
"I ask for your forgiveness."
(Even if you didn't do anything wrong.)
"Let me fix this. You don't have to do ANYTHING, Just give me a chance to make this right."
(Then, DO IT.)
I hope this advice doesn't offend you....if it sounds like I might have been where you are, well.......read what you want between these lines, but more importantly, think hard about my suggestion on where to start the healing.
Rich is so right here. As a father of two boys I have had my moments where I had to realize that above everything else my love for them is most important.
I have been in poor health lately with the possibility of riding on the road of eternity and feel that time waits for no one(hey that was an old Stones tune right?)anyway if it is my time to pass I will not leave this earth without the boys knowing that although they are grown men and like me and my father before me feel that we are a alpha male, to me they will always be the life that my wife and I created, little boys that I watched grow.Remember the gift of life that you felt as on the day he was born,and you held him in you hands, your pride that you felt as he lay there so helpless without you.Use this love to make things right.
And as far as the daughter goes......Well that would take writting a book.Yes she will always be daddy,s little girl!!!
Good luck to you. I pray that all will work out for the both of you.
Scubie.....DITTO on that, Bro.
I will keep you in my prayers, but somehow I already have the feeling you have nothing to worry about as far as where you'll land once you DO make that final trip, so my prayers will only be that the trip is postponed as long as possible.